The Act Of Love

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Remember when you first met your partner and how thrilled both of you were. Remember when you held each other hands for the very first time and how your hearts begun to skip a beat.  He looked deep within your sparkling eyes and you looked deep within his. At that moment in time, the feelings were magical. Feelings of hearing the sweet melody of each other heart beat and there it was the kiss.  It wasn’t just any ordinary kiss, but that first special kiss was like fireworks!!! It was hot; it was wet; it was perfect!!! That one special kiss will always put that extra smile on your face.

Do you remember that moment? I am sure you do! (SMILE)

Here are a few suggestions that have helped many couples in the past rekindle their sweet love & feelings for each other. I believe that this too will be of great use to your relationship as you both move forward on bringing it alive once again. This list is just a short list that can help do wonders in  getting you back into the swing of things. It is not in any particular order. Select the ones that will be of great use for you and your partner and build upon it and make it your very own.

1.  Share & Connect: Have a romantic meal together.

To do this both couple must agree to plan the whole evening together.  If you have kids remember to let a friend; family member or baby sister watch the kids for you that night and please don’t forget to turn off your ringer and make sure your answering machine is down low or off!!!!

Create a theme for the evening.  Ex: If you always wanted to visit one of the Caribbean Islands your theme would be “Ocean Of Love;” “Hearts Of Paradise” Create the romantic mood for that evening.  Go into Wal-mart or any stores that sell the sounds of nature on CD’s or just go online and download  the nature sounds like the ocean; waterfalls; birds chirping; rain pouring…you get the idea and just tap into your imagination and make it your very own.

Come up with a dinner menu just like if you were to go out and eat at a restaurant. There are all types of cooking recipes online.

You can also add candles to the evening. I would recommend the scented candles, because the aroma arouses the mind and set the atmosphere for that evening.  If you are unable to get the scented candles the regular ones are just as effective. Whatever you do just make sure it is romantic and you are doing everything together.

Dress up! You want to find something in your closet or take a drive to the mall. Whatever works for you! Make sure you look nice & sexy or handsome & appealing for your partner.

Have your special music playing in the back ground.  Ex: Classical; Jazz; R&B; Oldies but Goodies….Whatever type of music both of you like play it softly in the back ground whilst you are having your romantic dinner together and when you are done just dance the night away and let your sweet love for each other lead you wherever the night may end. (SMILE) HINT!

2.  Pamper each other:  Massage is always a great way to relieve any tension and can led to so many different things in a couple’s relationship. DON’T BE AFRAID TO EXPLORE! Caressing is a great form of communication. Verbal as well as non-verbal!

3.  Role-playing:  This is an added bonus that will definitely add spice and rekindle any couple’s relationship. Couple's who are stuck in the same old boring routine will find this refreshing in their lives. This will allow you to come outside of your comfort zone and become whoever you like.  The gratification a couple will receive from role playing is that it’s a whole lot of fun; it is exciting; it enhances a couple’s relationship to a whole other level; yes! It is very pleasurable in more ways than one…..BE CREATIVE! BE SPONTANEOUS! EXPLORE!!!!! The internet is filled with all kinds of role-playing games and gestures.

4.  Show Affection:  One thing I am certain of is that just about every person love to feel appreciated.  Being cared for and loved by another person is a splendid thing. Nobody likes to be taken advantage of or mistreated in a relationship.  So to all the couple’s out there please appreciate your partner, because love is truly a beautiful thing. Show the other person that you truly care and love them.  Wonderful acts of gestures and kindness can go a mighty long way in any relationship.  So don’t wait for the perfect moment or occasion like Valentines Day; Birthday; Christmas etc…to say I love you to your partner. Do it now and make it more frequently, before you end up losing and missing out on the best moments of your life.

5.   Listen To Each Other:  Women are verbal communicators. Men on the other hand are visual creatures. Personally speaking, in the majority of relationships I have seen as well as counsel over the years  I believe that this is the number one down fall that receive very little attention or none at all in a couple’s relationship. However, couple’s must understand that listening to each other with love is the number one key to sustaining and rekindling their relationship.  When a women feels that her partner has met her needs she will be more than willing to go above and beyond to bring complete satisfaction to him in every way possible. She doesn’t want to feel less appreciated, but she want to feel and know that she is special to her partner and that she’s his queen.

On the other hand, when a man also feels like he’s the man in the relationship he will give you his world. He want to be treated like the king of his castle and not like a dog on the streets.  He doesn’t want to be talk down to like a little school age boy who just wet his pants and need is mama to change it. (Smile) Women remember it is not what you say to men, but it is how you say it to them. Change your tune of voice and you will see the change in his response to truly want to listen to you.  Remember couple’s, everything you do…do it in love!

6.  Renew Your Vows:  Couples who have been together for so long and has experience so many things together this is the perfect way to show your act of love for each other.  You must also know that both partners must also be on one accord in order for this to be effective. It will bring a sense of freshness and add a much greater love back into your lives together as one.

"No amount of water can quench the fire of love."

~Author Unknown~